Grace Vineyard Oceanside Podcast

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Posted by Grace Vineyard Oceanside in Sunday Morning Talks, Jose Gutierrez

In this episode, we honor and say our goodbyes to the Jose Gutierrez family. 

After a month of processing our sadness at our loss, our thankfulness of endless blessings experienced with the Jose Gutierrez family, and looking hopefully to new adventures, it's time to Send off Pastor Jose, Vicki and Rebecca as they leave for Idaho.


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Epic Friendship


Philippians 2:25-30 NLT

25 Meanwhile, I thought I should send Epaphroditus back to you. He is a true brother, co-worker, and fellow soldier. And he was your messenger to help me in my need. 26 I am sending him because he has been longing to see you, and he was very distressed that you heard he was ill. 27 And he certainly was ill; in fact, he almost died. But God had mercy on him—and also on me, so that I would not have one sorrow after another.

28 So I am all the more anxious to send him back to you, for I know you will be glad to see him, and then I will not be so worried about you. 29 Welcome him with Christian love and with great joy, and give him the honor that people like him deserve. 30 For he risked his life for the work of Christ, and he was at the point of death while doing for me what you couldn't do from far away.


Koinonia – New Testament Greek word,primarily meaning fellowship, sharing in common, communion.  “Koinonia is being in agreement with one another, being united in purpose, and serving alongside each other. Our koinonia with each other is based on our common koinonia with Jesus Christ”  (from


True Brother – our shared experience in Christ as daughters and sons of God the Father, brings us into a relationship with each other and Jesus as brothers and sisters that is deeper and more profound than the ties of natural family.

Hebrews 2:11 NLT

11 So now Jesus and the ones he makes holy have the same Father. That is why Jesus is not ashamed to call them his brothers and sisters.


Co-Worker – When you work together in the eternal mission of Jesus Christ, that shared purpose serves also as ballast that keeps the ship offriendship upright even in the severest of relational storms. 


Fellow Soldier – In Christ, we are in a spiritual battle.  The depth of relationship that is built in defending each other from the attacks of the kingdom of darkness is indeed epic.

Philippians 1:27-28 NLT

27 Above all,you must live as citizens of heaven, conducting yourselves in a manner worthy of the Good News about Christ. Then, whether I come and see you again or only hear about you, I will know that you are standing side by side, fighting together for the faith, which is the Good News. 28 Don't be intimidated in anyway by your enemies. This will be a sign to them that they are going to be destroyed, but that you are going to be saved, even by God himself.


A relationship of true brother,co-worker and fellow solider in Christ empowered Paul to highly esteem his friendship with Epaphroditus, while simultaneously freeing Paul to release him to serve in a distant land to fulfill the God’s eternal purposes.


Real God | Real People |Restoring Lives


Real God

God is Alive! When we meet He shows up, and we experience Him through His Word, His Spirit and each other.

“For where two or three have gathered together in My name, there I am in their midst.”   

— Matthew 18:20 NASB

Real People

Come as you are. We grow by getting real with God and others in genuine,caring relationships.

“Every day they continued to meet together in the temple courts.They broke bread in their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts,praising God and enjoying the favor of all the people. And the Lord added to their number daily those who were being saved. “    — Acts 2:46-47


Restoring Lives

Give it away. We freely share the truth, love and power of Jesus to heal and restore broken lives.

“For God was in Christ, restoring the world to himself, no longer counting men’s sins against them but blotting them out. This is the wonderful message he has given us to tell others. We are Christ’s ambassadors. God is using us to speak to you…”  — 2 Corinthians 5:19-20



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Real People – Growing In Relational Wholeness #4

The Path, Power, and Freedom of Forgiveness


Relational Wholeness in the body of Christ is our non-negotiable goal


The most powerful force for emotional health and relational wholeness is the power of forgiveness


Forgiveness– Why it is crucial


Mathew 18:21-35

Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?”

22 Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.

23 “Therefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. 24 As he began the settlement, a man who owed him ten thousand bags of gold was brought to him. 25 Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that he and his wife and his children and all that he had be sold to repay the debt.

26 “At this the servant fell on his knees before him. ‘Be patient with me,’ he begged, ‘and I will pay back everything.’ 27 The servant’s master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go.

28 “But when that servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred silver coins.He grabbed him and began to choke him. ‘Pay back what you owe me!’ he demanded.

29 “His fellow servant fell to his knees and begged him,‘Be patient with me, and I will pay it back.’

30 “But he refused. Instead, he went off and had the man thrown into prison until he could pay the debt. 31 When the other servants saw what had happened, they were outraged and went and told their master everything that had happened.

32 “Then the master called the servant in. ‘You wicked servant,’ he said, ‘I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. 33 Shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?’ 34 In anger his master handed him over to the jailers to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed.

35 “This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart.”


We are tormented when we don’t forgive

The person that offended stays with us wherever we go

Our unforgiveness overflows to our other relationships


“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was you.” – Lewis B. Smedes


Our inability to give forgiveness to others is a clear indication that we are not able to receive forgiveness ourselves. Receiving and giving forgiveness are inseparably linked


Matthew 6:12-14

12 And forgive us our debts,

   as we also have forgiven our debtors.

13 And lead us not into temptation,

   but deliver us from the evil one.’

14 For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.


Forgiveness means to release another from their legitimate debt – it is costly because the offended resolves the hurt by love and releases the offender without making them suffer.

Forgiveness frees both the forgiver and the forgiven

To live in unforgiveness is to live in chains.


Forgiveness– What it is and what it isn’t


Forgiveness is giving up my right to make you pay the debt you owe me, and turning that debt over to God to deal with as he sees fit.  It means I am now free, and the offense no longer is an issue between us.


Forgiveness is not denial or minimizing the offense. 

Matthew 18:35

35"This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother from your heart."


Forgiveness from the heart means we connect fully with the pain.  Without facing the pain, our forgiveness will be superficial. But having connected fully with the pain, we can choose to fully release the debt to God.


Forgiving does not erase the bitter past. A healed memory is not a deleted memory. Instead,forgiving what we cannot forget creates a new way to remember. We change the memory of our past into a hope for our future.”  -Lewis B. Smedes


Forgiveness is a choice of the will.

 Many people are stuck, waiting for a certain feeling before they can forgive. Feelings often follow the choice to forgive, but the act of forgiveness is a choice independent from any particular feeling.


“We do have a choice.  We can hold on to bitterness and resentment, or we can chose to cling to God’s peace.  Resentment and peace cannot co-exist.  They cannot live in the same house.  Divorce the one from the other.  Let go of hatred and you will be on your way toward forgiveness.” –Training manual, Oceanside Healing Center


Forgiveness is not saying I trust the offender.   Forgiveness is freely given, trust is earned.


Forgiveness does not say there are no consequences to the offense.


Forgiveness – How to do it


Luke 23:33-34

33 When they came to the place called the Skull, they crucified him there, along with the criminals—one on his right, the other on his left. 34 Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” And they divided up his clothes by casting lots.


Realize and Feel there is an offense

Pray and ask the Holy Spirit to clarify the offense

Identify the offense

Be real about the cost of the offense


Choose to forgive and be free

The sizeof the debt is irrelevant

This is a crisis of obedience  -- God would not command us to do something He doesn’t enable us to do.

Be sincere with God about the offense



        Verbally.  “I forgive you for  [what you did]…”   Not just a generic “I forgive you.”

Release the person from owing you anything for the offense

Turn the debt over to God.

Ask God to forgive you for living in unforgiveness until now

Forgive yourself – one of the most difficult things to do

Begin to pray blessings for the offender

Be honest with God – do I have anything against Him for not “protecting me”?  


Colossians 3:12-14

12 Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. 13 Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. 14 And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.


Ephesians 4:32

32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.


Posted by Grace Vineyard Oceanside in Sunday Morning Talks, Vision, Relationships, Jose Gutierrez


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